This is going to be a boring post for most of you I think, and a rather personal one for me. This blog really is for my own consumption, as an online journal. If you are reading this out of interest though, there will be a more exciting picture post soon :)
People keep asking me how Paris is. Just like before I left, everyone seems to assume that I'm having a blast and I'm really excited and I'm LOVING it. That is called the honeymoon phase of an exchange (see I paid attention in class!) and unfortunately it is not a phase that I am privy too. I wasn't excited when I left, and I’m certainly not all that excited at the moment. I realize that this makes me sound either very spoiled or very sad, and usually both accounts are correct, but here it isn’t the case. I’m not blasé or depressed, just a little..off.
I’m not so homesick that I can’t function, but try as I might I can’t seem to get all that excited about things either. I don’t know anyone, I don’t speak the language, the courses are scaring the shit out of me and all in all it’s been pretty boring. Don’t get me wrong, the people I have met have been very kind, but my fantasies of partying the night away at popular lesbian bars in the Marias are slowly disintegrating. I feel like if I could transplant my life in Calgary to Paris things would make so much more sense.
Part of the problem is that I am only here for 4 months, which is hardly enough time to learn the language well enough that I can make friends outside of the exchange. Again I want to emphasize that the people in the exchange have been awesome and a lot of fun, but it’s not exactly the crowd I’d take out for a wild night in my part of town. The other problem is the continuous awkwardness of having to explain myself to people who I hope to become good friends with, but who are really strangers. I’ve become much more practiced at casually slipping in the “I’m gay” part of my life, but it’s still an obvious point of anxiety for me. I’m not one to shout it from the rooftops or wear rainbows all over the place, but it’s still a vital part of who I am. This probably won’t make sense to most of you who are reading this (presumably straight) but think about the last time you talked to a friend about a movie (omg ___ is so hot in that!) or reminisced about past adventures that may have involved your significant other.
And so I’m left feeling a little… dissatisfied with this whole adventure. Mainly because I haven’t been doing much in the way of adventuring yet. And I know that all good things come to those who wait, and it will get better soon and yadayada… but I don’t want to sit in classes all day listening to mean French Profs. I want to be seeing the sights and going to clubs and picnicking on the banks of the Seine. So please my amazing family, who I really do love so much, please don’t ask me if I’m having fun. The answer is yes, I am having fun- I LOVE all the different cultures and languages surrounding me. But that doesn’t necessarily mean that I’ve embraced Parisian culture and am particularly content with my current situation.
And that my loving friends and family, is your sadface blogpost post for this trip. Hopefully there will be no more to come
J